Desires are Horses, Ride it with Positive Stroke

Desires are Horses, Ride it with Positive Stroke  

….By Vijay Rustogi

The Desires are Horses:

When a person is born, he has the Desires. Initially through natural instincts for satisfying

hunger, and later on with acquired knowledge of comforts, wealth, wine, status and so on.

The fulfillment of desire brings the Happiness. 

The Desire are Horses on which the whole Human Race runs. It is a God given characteristic,
which has propelled the human race from primitive living in jungles to the present status of
so called urban comfortable sophisticated lifestyle living.

Goals and Desires:

Each desire longs for its fulfillment  If we think in an organized manner, then each desire is to
be converted into the Goal, may be a very short term, medium term or long term Goal.  For
achieving the Goal, a lot of efforts, skill sets, resources and requisite  time are required.
We deal with multiple goals at any given time. 

The GAP moves the World:

Each person has his own understanding  of Goal and  availability of resources for achieving

the goal.   With this,  there is a developed perception   of GAP between the Goal and the
Resources. If the GAP is perceived to be scalable it MOTIVATES, while if the GAP is
perceived to be non-scalable it FRUSTRATES. 

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This perception about the  scalability of the GAP,   motivates or frustrates. In fact the
Motivation and Frustration are the two sides of the same coin.  The perception about
scalability of the Gap  is the big driver for moving the whole world.  This is the reason why
most of the management guru prescribed for the short term smaller goals which are
achievable for motivation of employees.  

Positive Mindset Vs Negative Mindset

Apparently, it is possible that in a given situation, each individual may perceive differently

about the possibility of achieving the goal.  Even the same person in a different time zone
may have different perceptions.  The past experience of success or failure may also lead to a
tendency of  specific perception for the future. The people who perceive that the goal will
be achieved and embrace challenges are said to have a positive mindset, while those who
perceive otherwise and avoid the challenges are tagged as negative. This leads to
identification of positive mindset people and inclusion of the same in the Team keeping the
negative mind set people out from the performing team.

Ride it with Positive Stroke:


The highest purpose of life is to live Happily.   Happiness comes from the fulfillment of

 

Desires. This can be achieved only through a positive mindset which pushes the human
being to accept the challenges and act with full vigor and finally achieve. Positive strokes
helps in racing the horse of desire.Thus there is a necessity of keeping the Positive Mindset
continuously for all the time.

The following is recommended for keeping Positive Mindset:

1. Efforts, Capabilities and Resources 

Positive Mindset is possible only through continuous  efforts.  However, the reverse is also
true that a positive mindset causes continuous efforts.    Always improve the skill sets
required and also arrange for requisite resources to achieve the goal.  If the Corporate Goal
is converted into the individual Goal, do not hesitate to ask for the requisite resources from
your Manager.  

2. Confidence: 

Always look at yourself internally and believe in your capabilities and skill sets.  If required,
improve your capabilities through learning.  Self confidence changes  the perception a lot
and finally helps in the success. . 

    

3. Meditation:

Meditation helps in cooling the mind and controlling anger and frustration.  This also helps
in understanding the situation properly.  Better understanding leads to success.  

4. Luck:

As there are chances of failure too, many people believe that Luck plays an important role. 
Always believe yourself as a lucky person.  There is nothing wrong in believing that a
particular Pen is lucky for me, or a particular shirt is lucky for me.  This also gives a good
positive stroke.

What to do when a person feels Down

At any stage during the creation of goal to its fulfillment, there could be a possibility of

perception that the goal is not going to be achieved due to various reasoning. This would

put the person down.  The perception of failure would lead to certain talks and show of a
negative attitude.  

It is true that non-fulfillment of desire and/or perception that the desire will not get fulfilled
leads to unhappiness, anger, jealousy and other negativity.  This finally leads to frustration
and depression.  How to avoid it?

The following is recommended course of action:

1.  Go to your friends, philosopher and guide:  

Always be in the company of good dependable friends who can judge and guide
independently. Keep people with you who believe in you and your capabilities and at the
same time do not hesitate to correct you.  Share your problem with him.  He may have an
independent assessment and share his perception about what you can do to achieve the
goal. Collect all such information and feedback from the dependable friends. 

2.  Correct your perception:

In case you are convinced, correct your perception and believe that the goal is scalable. 
With corrected perception and confidence, nothing can stop you in achieving the Goal. 

3. Increase the Resources: 

If required, increase efforts, improve skill sets and increase the resources to achieve the goal.

4. Learn from mistakes:

Review the action taken so far and learn from the mistakes.  Correct the path of achieving the
Goal.

5. Detach from the Goal:

In case the Goal fixation is not in your hands, make your full efforts but get detached from
the results. In most of such cases the team works and not the individuals.  Things may go
not exactly as per individual desire.  Detachment helps in keeping yourself away from
arising  unhappiness yet performing fully. Best way is to switch on switch off mode, when
on the job switch on and vice versa. Remember Gita's Gyan “Perform but do not
long for its fruits”.  

6. Reduce your Goal:

After exhausting all  above, if the goal is still perceived to be far away, reduce the goal to
make it achievable.  This will help in having regular positivity and full efforts for achieving
the goal.

7. Switch the Goal:

If still the perception of non-achievement continues, it will be better to switch to another goal.
After all there are multiple goals in life.  It will always be better to switch than to get depressed,
frustrated and unhappy.  Don’t forget that the higher goal of life is to live happily.  Fulfillment of
desire brings happiness.   If the fixation of a particular goal is coming on the way of
happiness, change the goal itself.
  

Desires are part of life and the main driver for the growth of the individual and the world.
Understand the desire with an open and cool mind.  Desires are Horses,  ride it with
the positive stroke.   

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